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Bareback riding (without the saddle) was always something kids did. You grabbed your pony from the field, hopped on and away you went.

Today we barely function without saddles. While saddles help us look pretty or be more functional, bareback riding has many benefits for both posture AND confidence.

Bareback riding allows you to feel the true movement of the horse, and sends the rider information that is imperative for higher training. It is this very idea that correlates to English saddles having as little leather between the horse and rider as possible, especially in dressage saddles, where the flaps are thin and flexible.

This style is not particular to any discipline, and all disciplines and levels of riders can benefit from it. I ride bareback one day a week, and it not only improves my riding performance, but also tends to tune up the horse as well, as he/she is able to feel softer, subtle cues instantly, without the interference of leather.

Bareback also allows the rider to improve balance, strength, posture, flexibility and a side benefit of added confidence. As the horse moves, you are able to feel the muscle groups respond, and you gain a sense of where the horses’ feet are placed in each movement. Part of being a good horseman is the ability to connect with the horses body and feet. Many great riders will tell you that they feel as if they become one, almost like a centaur.

Riders are athletes. Regardless of the amount of riding you do, you need strong muscle groups. And strong muscles must stretch to be fully functional. Stretching while riding bareback gives you more room to move and gives the rider a better sense of balance. It cannot be done while your legs are glued to the horses’ sides. You must be free of tension, sitting with balance and freedom.

Longeing

This is a great way to begin, and remember to use a safe horse! Some people like to use the reins, but I find it best to tie off any equipment and just concentrate. Should the horse make any movements that are uncomfortable or alarm you, get off. Too many accidents happen because the rider stays aboard. If you find the horse may be quiet but not suitable while longeing, have the handler walk you around. Also, perform this within the confines of a roundpen, arena or any fenced area with softer ground. Never push the experience with an unsuitable horse. And wear a helmet! Many falls will dump you very close to the horses’ feet.

A great exercise that will prepare you for emergencies and give you better coordination is to practice dismounting. While walking, place your hands on the horses’ neck, push up and swing your leg over and jump down. If you do this enough times, you will remember it instinctively when you really need to dismount in a hurry. If the horse stops when being dismounted, reward him. You want to teach the horse to stop in case you fall off.

The weight (fat) of the horse will either provide comfort or be a hindrance. Thin horses provide a direct relation to the muscles, while chubbier horses provide comfort. Both will give you results, and while the middleweight horse may be best, if you have access to different body types you will only improve your learning. Overweight horses do tend to throw the legs out improperly, and you will lose the truer sense of balance, so use the chubby horse less frequently.

When you first start out on the line at a walk, concentrate on feeling balance. Are you tipping to one side? Try shifting your weight until you feel centered. It also teaches you how to make contact with your seat bones. Try to ‘match’ the movements of the horse, as opposed to being stiff and tight. While walking, do stop/walk transitions, again ‘feeling’ the legs beneath you and the muscles around you.

If you have a quiet horse, close your eyes and ‘feel’ - this practice will fast-track information to the brain, and if you do this regularly, you will find your improvements will come faster.

The trot and canter

Move slowly, at your own pace through the gaits. Never let anyone move you faster than you are comfortable, as you may lose all confidence and never ride again.

Often when you begin the trot, you will be thrown forward and back, sending mixed signals to the horse. If you work consistently, your balance will improve faster than the horse can be damaged. Remember, everything you do with your horse is training, even trying to ride bareback! Perfect practice makes perfect.

Speeding up

If you find the horse trots slowly in a saddle, but speeds up bareback, it is likely because you are gripping and moving your legs around and back. If that is the case, go back to the walk and regain balance by stretching and doing more exercises. Whenever you have a problem, go back to the slower gaits and work it out there.

Don’t use the reins to balance

Another problem that comes up with bareback riding is the use of the reins for balance. If you start to lose balance, grab the mane instead of the horses’ mouth. A horses’ mouth is a sacred place that should never know abuse, so try not to get into the habit of reaching for the reins.

Jumping Bareback

Jumping allows you to experience one of the more thrilling aspects of riding without a saddle. Before you venture into this, make sure the horse is capable and confident over small fences and poles. Start with ground poles or Cavaletti, moving from a single pole and gradually adding as you gain confidence. You can eventually do gymnastics on the longe line, but if you have progressed enough to begin jumping, you may want to ride free of the longe line.

Confidence

One of the best things you will walk away with is added confidence. Bareback riding involves a level of trust between you and the horse that riding in a saddle won’t teach as deeply. There is a sense of freedom, oneness and an exhilaration that’s hard to equal in any other sport. As you progress, you will find that your begin to learn balance intuitively, and I always state that in order to ride really well, you need to be able to move intuitively as opposed to mechanically. The only way to achieve this is to get out there and keep doing it. It’s like riding a bike: once you learn it’s with you forever.

April Reeves
Clinician, Instructor, Trainer
Horseman’s U.com

Read on for things that’s essential to know before you take Beginner Horseback Riding Lessons.

So you want to learn how to ride a horse? Well, there is something special about the human - horse relationship. No doubt about that. Here are some things you should know before you take Beginner Horseback Riding Lessons.

It’s a big plus if you can get to know horses - their breeds, colors, height and recommended uses.
You’ll need to understand the differences between English & Western styles of riding.
Also, before you start riding a horse, it’s best if you get to know the horse - they have personalities too! Likewise, the horse should get to know and trust you.

Learning to ride a horse can be a fun & rewarding experience for people of all ages. However, if the proper skills and safety techniques aren’t learned beforehand, you can end up taking many hard falls. That’s a big reason many beginner horseback riders end up quitting. Falls and injuries can be avoided if the beginning horseback rider takes the time to study the proper horseback riding techniques prior to riding a horse. Just like with learning to ride a bicycle; you first had to fully understand your restrictions, and what the bicycle is capable of. Same goes with learning to ride a horse. Did you know that 90% of falls and horse related injuries result from an inexperienced rider?

If possible, it is beneficial if you can read some horse-related books before taking beginner horseback riding lessons. That way, you know basic horse - related information. You wouldn’t want to begin taking lessons knowing nothing about these beautiful animals. Some of the basic things you need to know are before taking beginner horseback riding lessons are: What you should wear when riding and what not to wear, how to mount & dismount, the various gaits of the horse, understanding the mind of the horse, how to stay in control, etc.

Also, it’s good to know that it’s natural to be scared the first time you ride. But don’t let the horse know that. Horses are like children; they sense when their rider is insecure. So even if you’re afraid, act relaxed. Fake it till you make it!

Riding a horse can be one of the most thrilling experiences of your life. Stick with it. Learning to ride a horse can be slow & hard work. Don’t give up. Knowing that lots of experienced horse riders did not grow up around horses and also took beginner horseback riding lessons can be reassuring.

Sara Diamond likes to write about her interests. Horses are one of her loves. There is an excellent book that is a must-read before taking Beginner Horseback Riding Lessons. It is written especially for beginners in clear, easy to understand language. Read Horseback Riding - The Complete Beginners Guide to learn all the basics before taking Beginner Horseback Riding Lessons. The book is written by two horse lovers with a combined 45 years of riding experience.

Have you ever been invited to an event at a club or some sort of concert with friends where everyone was going to be dressed in full goth attire? If you have, then you may already know what it is like to be the only person in a group that is not decked out in the best gothic attire to match the current surroundings. Once you find yourself with another similar situation on your hands, it is best to nip it in the bud ahead of time and get your hands on a perfect gothic dress before hand.

Gothic dresses can come in many different styles and even colors, although the main color always seems to be black. To know the goth lifestyle is to fall in love with all of the dark romance and mystical nature behind it. Having a beautifully dark gothic dress to wear to any of your outings, events and occasions will make you feel like a gothic princess. You simply need to find one, or even a couple of dresses that will speak to your love of this lifestyle as well as the fashion.

Lace is always a perfect addition to any gothic dress. You can generally find lace in abundance around the sleeves, underneath as a sort of petticoat for the dress or even around the bust line as a gorgeous way to enhance the cleavage.

Velvet is also another staple of goth attire, which can come in the form of a full dress, complete with bell sleeves. You may even end up finding a dress that is made with silk that also has embellishments of velvet or even a stunning velvet burnout feature making an incredible pattern that is always desirable.

Satin is another common fabric used in many gothic dresses. With just enough silky shine, satin can make a lovely statement with even the darkest of attire.

No matter the dress you choose, you may find that there will be one or all of these great components. There are so many gorgeous gothic dresses that you can choose from today, you can really make a statement to your love for the goth lifestyle as well as the rich fashion surrounding it.

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Hitting the lip involves accelerating on a wave enough to surf up the face of the wave to the lip (the crest) and then coming back down to continue down the line. This maneuver will be one of your first tricks on a short board, and it’s one of the more enjoyable moves because it involves going up the wave quickly before gently falling back down.

If you watch surfing videos, which you should because they will teach you a great deal about short-boarding technique, notice how the surfer determines the move he or she will make by the shape and condition of the wave itself. The speed of the wave, in particular, will determine how to reposition your board. If the wave is slow, apply more weight on your front foot and step down to accelerate. If the wave speeds up, then take the opportunity to slide your front foot back an inch. Your knees should be bent throughout this process, which improves your center of gravity and balance.

When you decide to make your move and hit the lip, apply pressure on your back foot, which will allow your board to head up the wave. As you near the crest, release your foot so that you level out at the crest of the wave, with your board floating on the crest. Prepare to drop back down by bending your knees and pointing the tip of your board so that you can continue down the line. When you hit the bottom of the wave, do a quick bottom turn to gain acceleration to finish your ride.

Throughout your ride, your body and eyes should always be looking in the direction you want to go. Your back leg and upper body do most of the maneuvering. Hitting the lip involves steering with your back foot and forcing the movement with your shoulders. This trick takes a bit of practice, so don’t expect to land it the first try.

Long boarders can also perform this maneuver but should be careful not to be as aggressive with the movements, especially if the drop from the lip is more than four feet. The maneuver should be smoother and more fluid.

Robb Bailey works for South Coast Surf Shops, San Diego’s premiere surfboard distributor and surf apparel dealer for more than 30 years. He has been inducted as a lifetime honorary member of his college surf club, the Cal Poly Surfer’s Association, and has traveled the world surfing for the past 11 years. Find out more about Robb at SouthCoast.com

SHE LOVES ME, HE LOVES ME NOT

Who Is Some Who Loves You?

1. Someone who sees the best in you.

If you were lucky enough to grow up with healthy parents, you have experienced the feeling of having someone who has always looked at your good qualities. Many of us missed that experience. You will be a lucky person if you have found a mate who is always looking at your ’silver lining’. Too often today people are more than willing to judge you by your errors, not by your potential.

2. Someone who gives you the benefit of the doubt.

There are so many times in your life when you need that little edge, that little opportunity to take just that extra step. It can seem as if your efforts are going nowhere and although you want to keep moving forward, there are so many negatives staring you in the face. That person who knows things could go either way for you but takes that leap to believe you will make it is the person who is more valuable to you than gold.

3. Someone who watches over you.

You need a guardian angel who is there, waiting to catch you if you fall, ready to help you when you stumble, ready to pave the way for you when you cannot get moving. There are people who love you who do just that. There are people who do not make a big deal out of saving your bacon. Do you know who they are?

4. Someone to watch you back.

You never know these days who is waiting to catch you off guard, to make sure you don’t do well, to sabotage your efforts. You like to think that people will rejoice when you

do well. Many don’t. If someone ‘has your back’ and runs interference for you when you are trying to run the gauntlet through life, give that person a big ‘thanks’ plus lots of your attention.

5. The person who tells you we all make mistakes.

You hate to be around that judgemental, harsh person who reminds you, ‘I told you so’, when things so south. You don’t need anyone else telling you what you already know. On the other hand there are people who just let you know that the only way any of us learn is through experience. When you have really ended up in the dumper and blew it, stay close to the one who knows that the person who hasn’t done anything wrong hasn’t done anything much.

6. The person who gives you advice from the heart, not from the head.

When the situation gets rough and some big decisions need to be made, it’s fine to have people outline the pros and cons of a problem and give you ‘head’ answers. But if you need a nudge sometimes to tip the scales, you always listen to this person who knows you must do what will let you live with yourself and have self respect.

7. The person who won’t be the ‘yes man’ who agrees with you

No one who loves you is going to give you the green light and tell you to let er rip if it’s clearly going to be bad for you. It’s sad that often you surround yourself with people who tell you what you want to hear. The one who loves you will tell you to get help for a drinking or drugging problem, to stop the extramarital affair, and to be a good and decent person.

8. Someone who tells you to knock back, smell the roses, and enjoy life part of the time.

If you are a person who is a real performer and doer, there are likely to be people around you who enjoy the fruits of your labor and want you to do even more. Sometimes you may even see yourself as only valuable when you are giving, doing, and performing. Listen to the person who tells you that life is short and you need breaks and some R&R. That is the person who is looking out for you and your health.

9. The one who smiles at you and means it.

The person who loves you looks at you with eyes that smile and mean it. Too many people give you that slick smile, that quick pat on the back, and then forget that you even exist.

The eyes are the windows of our soul and you can read into a person’s smile if it is saying, ‘You are a fine person and I want to be with you as long as possible’. Don’t fall for any phony smile that attracts you off in another direction, only to leave you stranded and alone.

10. Someone who sees you as beautiful, inside and out.

You know you aren’t perfect. There are only too many examples of you looking around and thinking that you have flaws and aren’t like the people on television. The person who loves you sees you through eyes of acceptance with no conditions. As you gain a few pounds and your hair gets thin, the person who sees you as attractive, inviting, and appealing is the person who loves you all the way, no strings or demands.

Nowadays, it’s really important to know who loves you. Everything in our society is throw away, and many people have carried that over into the most important relationships in their lives. Think hard and look carefully. People who love you , like comfortable clothes, are easy on the heart, mind, and soul.

sharon schurman is a retired clinical counselor whose site gives information, tips, and suggestions on dealing with all types of depression.  Please go to http://www.depression-help-guide.com.

The myths and legends of fairies are as plenteous as the sands of the sea. The stories passed down from generation to generation speak of magical beings of untold power, mystery and beauty. Many wonder what the truth behind the tales are, but many more desire to know what fairies look like- what about them is so striking?

The Gift of Physical Beauty

Though there are many stories and artistic renderings of what fairies look like, there are few who know exactly what to believe. Do fairies have deep black eyes, pointed claw-like fingers and fangs? Or are fairies creatures of ethereal beauty and grace?

More are likely to believe that the fairies of the stories they have read as a child are truly glorious beings. Whereas some fairies such as Tinkerbell can be diminutive in stature, there are others that are six feet tall. They have long flowing hair that glimmers in the moonlight, their ears are perfectly pointed at the tips and their eye are slanted, almost almond shaped. The fairies of little girl’s dreams have pale skin that glitters as if kissed by a pearl, and their wings are diamond encrusted capes upon their backs. Every child dreams of fairies as being more beautiful than any mere human, and they can continue to dream of such things. Fairies are as beautiful as you want them to be.

Adornments and Apparel

Fairies are not just beautiful in physical appearance; they also wear the most delectable things. The fairy women gown themselves in diaphanous fabrics that shimmer in the light and hide little from the sight. The men of the fairy court are garbed in tunics of rich silk and velvet that cause even the stoutest hearted of human women to gasp in utter awe.

The clothes of the fairies are inconsequential next to the fine jewels and gems they wear. The fairy jewel crafters are known to be the craftsmen to the gods. Nothing that the humans of this world can produce will ever compare to the magical craftsmanship of the fairies. On the head of each fairy is a tiny crown of the purest gold. Upon each fairy hand is a ring, each detailed planned out to the merest nth degree. The neck of each fairy is adorned with a necklace so fine that the moon itself would fall from the sky just to marvel at its shine. No human on earth could ever imagine the true beauty of the fairy wardrobe.

Fairies are magic; they are the very essence of what legends are made of. The dreams and fantasy fairies create in the minds and hearts of all people are what makes our hearts yearn for something more. The beauty and appearance of a fairy will not only cause our eyes to sparkle in joy, it will cause our eyes to become blind to all earthly beauty made of man.

What can one say about the vibrant vision that is the fairy? Nothing compares to the bold and beautiful fairy folk and nothing ever will.

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In a way, adult lingerie is the material manifestation of the very racy lyrics penned by immortal songwriter Cole Porter. “Birds do it, bees do it - even educated fleas do it…” and by slipping into some sexy lingerie for your significant other, you’ll be “doing it” in short order. Exotic lingerie shows that “You’ve Got That Thing,” and when the two of you are “all alone” and “no chaperone” can get your number, nothing says “Let’s Misbehave” better than adult lingerie.

Of course, sometimes a man’s most powerful dreams are not about what he wants, but rather what he can’t have (or wouldn’t dare go for in real life). In this case nothing spices up a couple’s love life like a good fantasy. Perhaps your man is fantasizing about “Love For Sale.” Exotic lingerie is one way to allow him to live that secret, forbidden encounter in a safe environment with the only one he should be doing it with. Of course, such fantasies have endless variations - and when it comes to fantasy lingerie, virtually “Anything Goes.”

What is his fantasy? What’s yours? A night in an Ottoman harem, a chance encounter with a flirty French maid, or even the ever-popular “naughty schoolgirl”? Show him that you’re “So Nice To Come Home To” with fantasy lingerie that brings his most secret desires to life!

Sexy lingerie can also provide a “jump start” for a love life that has slowed over time. Perhaps your relationship has fallen into a rut. Your special lover may “get no kick from champagne” - or seem to be less interested than he used to be. If “mere alcohol doesn’t thrill him at all,” slip into some sexy lingerie - before long, he’ll “get a kick out of you” once more.

By the way, sexy lingerie is not just for pencil thin model-types. If you’re a full-figured woman, you have no reason to be shy. Not only are large women considered sexually desirable in many cultures, but more and more men in general are revealing their fetish for plump, curvy women. Feed that fetish with plus size lingerie!

Adult lingerie is a great way to make it “delovely” on those hot summer nights “under an August moon, burning above.” Whether it’s exotic lingerie for a night of novel experimentation, or fantasy lingerie for living out those forbidden dreams, chances are good that when you slip into some slinky adult lingerie, he’ll find you - to quote Cole Porter himself - “oh, so Easy to Love.”

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If your husband is emotionally distant it can be hard to maintain a marriage. If you deeply love your husband and you feel him withdrawing from you, you may begin to think that he’s finding solace in the arms of another woman. The truth is that men pull back for many reasons and chances are that he’s not involved with anyone else at all. If you feel him slipping away, there are things you can do to rebuild the marriage and the love you two once shared.

The reason your husband is emotionally distant may be because of an ongoing conflict between the two of you. Just as women tend to hold onto negative emotions, men often do the same. If the two of you have been at odds about something, be it your children, finances or even where your next vacation should be, that can cause your husband to withdraw. You need to find a solution to the problem now. They say that marriage is almost all compromise, so now may be the time for you to find a middle ground with your spouse so you two can put the issue at hand to rest. If you are sincere about wanting to save the relationship, this is something you’re going to have to do.

Spending more alone time together, can also help if your husband is emotionally distant. In the hustle and bustle of day-to-day married and family life it’s easy for a couple to become disconnected emotionally. Marriage is work and you sometimes just need to schedule time alone together. Find a babysitter and plan for an evening out. A quiet dinner and even a walk can help you two feel closer. You need to do this on a regular basis so the two of you never lose sight of what you mean to one another.

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Does he love you for you? Many women have wondered this about the man they are with. It’s often hard to know if the man in your life is really emotionally invested in the relationship or if his focus is simply to have some fun right now and then move on. There are some telltale signs that do indicate that a man truly does adore you.

When you are wondering does he love you for you consider how much time he wants to spend with you. If he’s just as happy to sit and watch a movie with you as he is to being intimate with you, he’s emotionally invested in the relationship. When a man only wants to see you when it’s convenient for him and when you two are together he can’t keep his hands off you, don’t automatically take this behavior as a compliment. The fact is that if a man really loves you for the person you are, intimacy won’t be his only focus.

Men who are truly interested in a woman want to involve that woman in their lives. They want to introduce her to family, friends and co-workers. You should seriously be wondering does he love you for you if you have yet to meet anyone in his life. If he constantly makes excuses for why you can’t meet his friends or family, there may be more to it than just them being too busy or unavailable. He may be viewing your relationship as short term only. If you are in this situation and you believe that you feel more for him than he does for you, it may be time to reevaluate things.

If you are unsure about how he feels there are specific things you say and do can make your man feel helplessly drawn to you. If you are convinced he is the one there are things you can do to ensure he only has eyes for you. For more insightful tips about understanding men including a way to get him to fall deeply in love with you, visit this Informative Site!

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Since I often write about saving marriages, regaining the love and spark in your marriage, and restoring intimacy and closeness, I’m often asked what is the best way to react or proceed when you know that you husband wants to leave. The answer to this will greatly depend upon the situation, but I hope to give you options, ideas, help, and support in this article.

First off though, let me say that I generally find there are two different types of situations when a husband wants to leave. The first is the most volatile of the two and often, the husband is being hurtful in letting you know or informing you that he wants to wants to go. Usually, there has been some explosive situation like a huge fight, or the husband deciding to be mean being disrespectful. Often in these situations, the husband will leave no doubt that he has one foot out the door. This highly emotional situation may lead to name calling or hurtful phrases like him telling you that he “doesn’t love or find you attractive anymore,” or things like he’d be better off without you.

I had one woman tell me that her husband told her he wanted to leave because she was overweight. In these situations, it’s so important that you do not give your power away. The husband is being incredibly disrespectful, so before you attempt any communication or negotiations, I believe it is best to call him on it and insist that in moving forward, he treat you in respectful manner. There is virtually no chance in really working things out in a lasting and long term way if he is going to act this way.

Thankfully, many situations I am asked about involve less explosive situations where the husband wants to leave because of distance created, a loss of intimacy (i.e. he’s “fallen out of love,”) or because of external factors that have caused severe stress and strain on the marriage. In these examples, the marriage at one time was a good one and somehow the way has been lost.

In both instances, there are things that I have learned through experience and through research and counseling that you absolutely should not do, even when or if you desperately don’t want your husband to leave. These things may seem natural and right when your husband wants to leave, but they will really backfire in the end because you’ve given your power away and will ultimately make you appear less desirable.

I believe that you should not beg, stalk, engage, argue with, or constantly follow, text, or call your husband. You should not make false promises, appear desperate, or do anything which would elicit negative emotions or reactions.

It’s important to understand that if you want your husband to stay or want him back, you absolutely have to replace the negative feelings between you with positive ones. This may seem overly simplistic but it really isn’t. Husbands who are experiencing loving, affectionate, and empathic feelings toward their wife are much more likely to be receptive to what you have to say and to listen without already knowing the outcome.

The way you do this is to conduct yourself in a way that you can proud of and that you won’t regret later. You don’t want to act in a way that will push your husband further away from you. At the same time, you don’t want to be a pushover either.

As you can see, this is a delicate dance. You have to strike a balance between communicating with your husband and making him understand that you love him, don’t want him to leave, and want to make saving the marriage a high priority and having enough respect for yourself to not compromise your self respect and dignity.

The truth is, you will appear much more attractive to your husband if you retain your self esteem and self worth. You can still love your husband and go out and see your friends or do whatever it is that makes you happy and fulfilled without groveling. This will put you in a better emotional place and will likely peak your husband’s interest rather than affirming he really wants to go.

Sometimes, I have women approach me and say their husband wants to leave and he just will not talk with them at all or has completely shut them out because of a major fight or issue. Believe it or not, the process is still the same. You conduct yourself in a positive manner, do the things that will invoke positive feelings in both yourself and your spouse, and take baby steps until you’re husband is receptive again.

In some instances - when it’s clear the husband is dead set on leaving and is not going to change his mind, it’s best to just agree with your husband that the marriage has problems and if he really thinks he needs a break, then agree that you’d like the time to work on yourself as well. This will help to minimize a lot of the tension and distance. Hopefully, as the tension lessens you’re husband will have no reason to avoid or reject you. You’re also retaining your dignity and power, which is hugely important in this situation.

I had to use this approach when I trying to save my marriage (and was the only one who wanted to). I made a lot of mistakes, but eventually I was able to change course and regain my husband’s interest. Over time (and taking calculated baby steps), I was able to reestablish intimacy and bring back his love. You can read my very personal story on my blog at http://you-can-save-your-marriage.blogspot.com/