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It’s estimated that about half of us have already cheated or will cheat on our partner. In fact, around 60% of men and 40% of women will have an affair.

Now, we’re not suggesting that all men are up to no good. Lots of us have ups and downs in our relationships and our interests in each other come and go, depending on how secure you feel as a couple.

But if you do suspect that your partner could be having an affair, how can you tell? What are the signs he’s cheating?

We’ve come up with a list of the most common signs and explained what the innocent explanation could be and the reasons why it could be a sign of cheating.

Have a look, think about your own relationship and then make your own mind up…

1. Your intuition
His behaviour: Suspecting that something’s up is often the first sign for many women. Admittedly intuition isn’t anything that your fella is actually doing, but you know that something doesn’t feel quite right - often you’ve spotted some of the other signs sub-consciously.

The innocent explanation: Quite simply, your intuition could be wrong. Do you talk to each other enough? Perhaps he’s going through a stressful time.

The guilty reason: Hunches have been proved to be correct more often than not. If instinct is telling you that he could be playing away, then keep your eyes and ears open for some of the other signs.

2. He’s over-attentive
His behaviour: He spends more time being interested in you than normal. Perhaps, he buys you gifts unexpectedly or starts helping look after the children more than normal. He may even start doing more around the house, ironing, washing, or those niggly DIY jobs that have been left unfinished for months.

The innocent explanation: Have you been going through a bad patch recently? Your fella could have decided to make more of an effort in order to get things back on track - positive thinking is important in relationships.

The guilty reason: He’s feeling guilty and wants to make up for the fact that he’s having an affair. This sort of thing often happens in the early stages of an affair.

3. Technology changes
His behaviour: Now that technology makes it easier to contact people, this not only means that it’s easier to have an affair, but there are also more places to be caught out. You may discover that your man has an email account you never knew about, or perhaps he has two phones and you only know one number.

Another common sign is when he starts taking calls and walking out of the room, often telling you it’s work, and gets defensive when you get near his phone.

The innocent explanation: His boss has asked him to be on call when he’s at home, given him a work phone and your partner doesn’t want to interrupt whatever you’re doing.

The guilty reason: His mistress is sending him naughty texts or emails while you’re at home and he’s trying to cover them up. We’re not suggesting you actually snoop because if there is nothing going on then it could you look bad and in the wrong - just be aware.

4. You don’t talk any more
His behaviour: This is almost the opposite of him being over-interested in you. Maybe he’s stopped being interested in what you got up to during the day, or he no longer says ‘I love you’ or doesn’t even want to kiss or hug you any more.

The innocent explanation: Could he be stressed or maybe even suffering from depression? This can often explain mood swings or disinterest and possibly he won’t realise he’s suffering.

The guilty reason: If he starts becoming less interested in finding out what you’ve done during the day and how you’re feeling, then it’s often an indication that he’s getting his emotional fix elsewhere. When kissing stops in a relationship, it’s often seen as a big warning sign.

5. He’s hotter than ever in bed
His behaviour: Your husband suddenly starts doing something new and amazing when you’re in the throes of passion. It could be a new foreplay technique, or maybe even a new sex position you’ve never even heard of before.

The innocent explanation: He could well be looking at websites like goodtoknow and discovered some new sex tips and thought he’d give them a go. Don’t knock the guy for trying!

The guilty reason: If it happens more than once, then it could be because someone is teaching him something new in another bed!

6. He gets irritated quickly
His behaviour: When you ask him questions about what he’s been up to, he starts to act all defensive and jumpy.

The innocent explanation: He could be planning a surprise holiday or romantic break and doesn’t want you to ruin the surprise.

The guilty reason: He’s worried that you’re checking up on him and will discover his cheating ways.

7. Your friends notice something’s up
His behaviour: This isn’t anything he’s done, but often friends and family will notice that things aren’t quite right between the two of you and start asking questions.

The innocent explanation: You’re going through a tough time or you just tend to be a little more on edge when you’re in other people’s company.

The guilty reason: If more than one best mate starts asking if everything’s all right between you, maybe it’s time to stop and think - especially if you hadn’t noticed anything was wrong!

8. He’s a changed man
His behaviour: Has your partner started wanting to watch new TV programmes, listen to new music or even bought new clothes or a new aftershave?

The innocent explanation: He could be having a mid-life crisis and feel that he needs to be ‘young and hip’ again, or maybe he’s discovered a new website or magazine that’s giving him new recommendations.

The guilty reason: A new woman often means he experiences new things (other than sex) that you have no hand in.

9. He accuses you of cheating
His behaviour: This will probably come as a bit of a shock, but he’ll possibly ask outright if you’ve been seeing someone else. Men tend to be more direct than women.

The innocent explanation: Although statistics show that men cheat more than women, that doesn’t mean he won’t have his own suspicions. If your relationship is going through a rough patch, it’s not an unreasonable explanation - especially if you’ve stopped talking as much.

The guilty reason: It’s common for cheaters to suspect their partners of cheating simply because they believe that if they’re getting away with it, you can too. This is also how many people who cheat deal with their guilt - they try to make themselves feel better by turning the tables. Once you’ve got over your initial shock at being accused, it might be worth looking a little closely at what he’s up to!

10. Things don’t add up
His behaviour: Has he started changing his daily routine for seemingly no reason? Maybe his actual job hasn’t changed, but he starts leaving earlier in the morning and getting back later. Or perhaps he told you he was out with Steve last week, but you later discover that Steve was away at a conference.

The innocent explanation: Work could be getting more stressful - perhaps someone has left, leaving him with more work than normal. Alternatively, he could be arranging some sort of surprise party and he doesn’t want you to know what he’s up to.

The guilty reason: Once someone starts lying, it becomes more and more difficult to keep up the act, so when small unexplained things start happening or you notice inconsistent things, there could be something not-so-innocent as an explanation.

11. You’re not invited to work dos any more
His behaviour: Remember the days when you always used to go to his Christmas parties or summer balls? He always asked you to come for a drink with his work colleagues if you were free, but all of a sudden there’s been a ‘change of policy’, or maybe he just doesn’t even suggest it any more.

The innocent explanation: Well, the credit crunch is more than just a buzzword. Companies really are cutting back on non-essential things and if that means not inviting partners to anything any more, that’s what they’ll do.

The guilty reason: If the work invites start drying up, it could well be because he’s seeing someone at work and doesn’t want you to meet them and create an awkward situation… for him, obviously.

12. He starts taking showers
His behaviour: We hope that your man’s personal hygiene is up to scratch, but he may be diving into the shower the minute he comes home.

The innocent explanation: If he comes home drunk a lot, he could well be covering up drunken injuries or something similar.

The guilty reason: He wants to get rid of the smell of another woman’s perfume or sex.

And finally… remember!
None of these signs is proof enough on its own that your man might be cheating on you, but together they’re often a pretty good indicator.

What you do next is up to you, but at least you can talk to him knowing that you’ve weighed up the signs and options.

Kate Corr
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1. Trust your feelings

If you’ve got an uneasy feeling that something has changed in your relationship and that there is more going on than your partner is telling you then you might just have a cheating spouse on your hands. Surveys reveal that your gut feeling or intuition is very often right in these circumstances so it shouldn’t be ignored.

2. Unaccounted for Time

What does he do after work and before he gets home? He can’t spend every evening working late can he? Have you tried to call him at the office to find out when he will be home but he’s not there? If he wasn’t at the office then where was he? He will probably find it very difficult to explain where he was if you ask him about it and he might even get annoyed with you to try and cover it up. Has he accused you of spying on him lately?

3. Lip gloss on his collar

Lipstick on his collar is the old cliche and it’s still very true even today. It simply isn’t possible to be intimate with someone without exchanging something with them. It could be odor from perfume or after-shave or lip gloss marks on clothes. Of course it doesn’t mean that your spouse is cheating on you if you find these clues but if it happens often then you should start wondering why.

4. Sudden displays of affection

If someone is feeling guilty about something like cheating on their partner then they are likely to want to try and make up for it in some way. This is a subconscious knee jerk reaction of course as it can’t possibly make up for such infidelity. Making up often means showering you in gifts or make mad passionate love. An unusual level of affection all round.

5. Telephone calls that go click when answered

An unusual number of silent telephone calls, you know the ones where the caller hangs up just as you answer it. It could be your cheating spouses lover trying to call him but unexpectedly getting you instead. This could be significant if you’re getting more of these calls than you normally do.

6. Suddenly your boyfriend takes his calls in private

Does he walk out of the room every time his cell phone rings? If he seems to have become more private lately then you might have a cheating boyfriend.

7. Listen, observe and analyse what your spouse is telling you

Does everything he says make sense? It’s very difficult to lie convincingly and keep up the deceit for any length of time. Lying requires you to remember what you said and it’s so easy to forget and contradict yourself later. Really listen to what he tells you and observe what he does. If he’s lying to you then you may notice cracks in his stories after a few days.

8. Where does he go? Track a cheating spouse with minimal effort

If your partner is cheating on you then he must be doing more traveling than usual. A simple way for you to check for this sign of a cheating spouse is to make a note of the miles recorded on his car odometer. Check it again in a few days to see how far he’s traveled. If it amounts to more than trips to the office then he might be keeping something from you.

If you suspect that your partner is making regular visits to a secret lover there are some very neat spying devices available to help you catch him out. My favorites are discussed here: Cool Spy Gadgets To Catch a Cheating Spouse

9. What is all the money being spent on?

Have you noticed more money going out of your bank accounts but you are having trouble working out where it’s all going? Gifts and hotel bills accommodating secret lovers can cost significant sums of money.

10. Deleting emails a lot quicker than normal

Emails that get deleted as soon as read and empty computer desktop on his monitor whenever you take a peek are all signs of secrets being kept. Is the secret another lover and a sign of a cheating spouse.

You’ve seen the signs now take the next step and catch your cheating spouse in the act http://www.howdo-i.com/cheating-spouse. Tip: Go through the numbers on his cell phone and look them up How to do a reverse telephone lookup

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It’s no wonder that with today’s growing interest in Yoga, people all over the world are signing up to take classes. In fact, with more information coming out every day about the health attributes attached to yoga, the more folks want to know.

The phenomenon attracts many different people from every possible background and, since it can be practiced regardless of physical size, age or gender, it can truly be said that Yoga is universally for everybody.

As this phenomenon continues to grow, we’ll find an ever increasing variety of Yoga attire to choose from, and while wearing cool clothes is always fun, it’s also important to take other, more important issues into consideration. You’ll find it is better to spend your money with regard to practicality rather than fashion.

The important qualities to consider when shopping for clothes are comfort, freedom, fabric and for women, modesty

COMFORT

Comfort is the first point to be considered. You want items that are not restrictive, and will allow you to do the twisting and turning, so much a part of the postures, freely and easily.

FREEDOM

It’s important to choose clothing that won’t hinder movement. The need for freedom of movement is essential due to the many different positions you’ll be putting your body through.

Find clothing without tight spots, binding seams or bunched material, because these would inhibit your flexibility and prohibit you from many of the poses so inherent in Yoga.

COLOR

A soothing, calming color is the ideal. Many practitioners wear only white. This in itself has a calming, cleansing effect on the body. If you can’t find appropriate white clothing, stay with a color that is soothing to you. Pale greens and soft blues are very effective.

FABRIC

Fabric is the next consideration. Pure organic cotton is by far the best choice. It offers chemical free comfort and gives you an all natural feeling that you won’t find in any other material.

Additionally, the fabric needs to be lightweight and porous to ensure you feel comfortably dry and free from perspiration during and after the session.

MODESTY

Finally, and this is especially important for women, undergarments should be purchased with thoughtful consideration as well. A comfortable sports bar will far exceed the capability of movement of a regular bra.

Since some positions tend to make a regular shirt ride up, it might be advisable to choose a top that clings to the body.

Also, women will probably feel more comfortable wearing a pair of pants of a good length. This will enable them to do the positions without feeling self conscious.

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Oh the excitement of preparing for your first baby. There is nothing that compares!

Don’t feel over-whelmed; it is a big job, but these tips will give you a good place to start. Good preparation now will help ease the transition once you bring your bundle of joy home and the reality of lack of sleep, diaper changing and early morning feeding sets in. If your nursery is prepared ahead of time and organized properly, both you and baby will have less stress and a place to be together.

Tip 1: Clear Out Clutter You should have a separate room for baby to call his/her own, if space allows. Clear out all items not related to the purpose of the room. Get creative and find another place for your home office and overnight guests!

Tip 2: Baby Closet As your baby grows, it will be very important for the closet in his/her room to be dedicated solely to items belonging to the child. Prepare now. Move items not baby-related to another area. Consider letting go of some items. This will save time after the baby arrives.

Tip 3: Creative Storage Space Babies require a lot of baby-related gear. You will need places to store everything. While shopping for furniture and other items, be sure the items have plenty of storage space included. Utilize vertical space by utilizing hooks and shelves on the walls. Put the dresser in the closet, if space provides. If you are utilizing a rocker and ottoman, get an ottoman with a hinged lid for storing baby blankets, etc. Utilize a hanging shoe bag near the baby changing table for storing powder, lotion and diapers. Get creative!

Tip 4: Baskets and Bins Decorative baskets and colorful bins are great places for storing items such as toys, books, etc. You can usually find them with cloth linings relatively inexpensively. They not only contain the baby clutter, but look great in the room as well.

Tip 5: Like Things Together A basic principle of organizing is to group like items together in the same place. Put baby bathing supplies (towels, wash cloths, powder, hairbrush, etc.) together in a basket for transporting to the area you will bath baby. Put changing supplies (diapers, rash cream etc.) near the changing station and put an extra set in your diaper bag.

Tip 6: Toy Storage There are many ways to store toys: toy chests, bins, baskets are just a few. Pick out your favorite item that fits in your space plan. Do not keep adding storage for toys. Most children have far too many toys and typically only play with a few items. Donate or garage sale the rest and keep the clutter to a minimum.

Tip 7: Give It Up Babies outgrow clothing, furniture, toys, etc. relatively quickly. You don’t have to keep everything. Pick only a few sentimental items to treasure (hand/foot print, baby shoe, first hair curl, special clothing item, etc.). Purchase special items to display or keep those items and discard the others.

Tip 8: Growing Space Children grow quickly. This means that they will out grow their current clothing. Have a special bin or basket for donating clothing that no longer fits and items your child no longer needs. Be sure to leave growing room in your child’s closet. As your child gets older, clothes, toys and other items will take up more room. Learn to leave some drawers and shelves empty. This will create less stress for you and your child. You eliminate being out of room again and again.

Have a happy baby homecoming!

These organizing tips are provided by Shelly Morton, professional organizer and owner of Straighten-Up-Now.com and Messy Makeover Yahoo Group

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Most women become concerned that their tightening clothing will harm their child, however this isn’t true. There is no need to worry about your unborn child if your clothing is tight, as they are completely protected from any pinching or squeezing. While this is true, you aren’t completely immune yourself to the constriction, and discomfort that some tight clothing may cause. It is important to key up the right balance between comfort as well as fashion while you are watching your waist and bust line expand throughout your pregnancy. However, some women are steadfast in giving in to their growing baby bump. It is important to remember, that while your body is changing; it doesn’t mean that your fashion has to. There are several options available to every mother to be, whether it be at their mass market retail store or on the world wide web. There are things such as the traditional style dresses that are flowing and are typically made from fabrics such as lycra, that will allow for a comfortable figure hugging style, that will allow you to show off your gorgeous new body shape. Below I have compiled a helpful list of things that may help you ease into the transition of free as a bird, to mother to be in your fashion statement.

* Slacks or leggings which are cut for pregnancy in mind, that has extra room in the front of the pant construction. However if you are still clinging to your old pants, I would suggest purchasing a belly belt to aid you in keeping a hold on your bondage strap pants.

* for work you may want to consider a higher end slack; and teaming them with a long blouse. Some ideas to spice this up, is by wearing your partner’s larger sized button up tops and tossing in a tie to add a little edge. Some people also suggest purchasing things such as a maternity jacket, however you can wear a larger sized jacket just as easily as a maternity specific jacket. However if you do find yourself leaning to that side of things, I would suggest dressing it up with a little bit of your own personality using patches etc

* Layered clothing; which will allow you to peal away a layer or two if you begin to feel the heat of your pregnancy looming over you. However also keeping the ability to layer it back on, if your body temperature begins to decline.

* Purchase clothing that will allow you to breast feed after your child is born, this way you will gain a few extra months out of your clothing. That is of course, until you decide to shed those pregnancy pounds. This is also equally true when you are purchasing your under garments such as bras, when you are trying to accommodate your growing bust size. I would suggest purchasing nursing bras, if you intend to breast feed your child which will allow for a much longer life of your maternity under garments.

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SHE LOVES ME, HE LOVES ME NOT

Who Is Some Who Loves You?

1. Someone who sees the best in you.

 

If you were lucky enough to grow up with healthy parents, you have experienced the feeling of having someone who has always looked at your good qualities. Many of us missed that experience. You will be a lucky person if you have found a mate who is always looking at your ’silver lining’. Too often today people are more than willing to judge you by your errors, not by your potential.

 

2. Someone who gives you the benefit of the doubt.

There are so many times in your life when you need that little edge, that little opportunity to take just that extra step. It can seem as if your efforts are going nowhere and although you want to keep moving forward, there are so many negatives staring you in the face. That person who knows things could go either way for you but takes that leap to believe you will make it is the person who is more valuable to you than gold.

 

3. Someone who watches over you.

You need a guardian angel who is there, waiting to catch you if you fall, ready to help you when you stumble, ready to pave the way for you when you cannot get moving. There are people who love you who do just that. There are people who do not make a big deal out of saving your bacon. Do you know who they are?

4. Someone to watch you back.

You never know these days who is waiting to catch you off guard, to make sure you don’t do well, to sabotage your efforts. You like to think that people will rejoice when you

do well. Many don’t. If someone ‘has your back’ and runs interference for you when you are trying to run the gauntlet through life, give that person a big ‘thanks’ plus lots of your attention.

 

5. The person who tells you we all make mistakes.

You hate to be around that judgemental, harsh person who reminds you, ‘I told you so’, when things so south. You don’t need anyone else telling you what you already know. On the other hand there are people who just let you know that the only way any of us learn is through experience. When you have really ended up in the dumper and blew it, stay close to the one who knows that the person who hasn’t done anything wrong hasn’t done anything much.

 

6. The person who gives you advice from the heart, not from the head.

When the situation gets rough and some big decisions need to be made, it’s fine to have people outline the pros and cons of a problem and give you ‘head’ answers. But if you need a nudge sometimes to tip the scales, you always listen to this person who knows you must do what will let you live with yourself and have self respect.

 

7. The person who won’t be the ‘yes man’ who agrees with you

No one who loves you is going to give you the green light and tell you to let er rip if it’s clearly going to be bad for you. It’s sad that often you surround yourself with people who tell you what you want to hear. The one who loves you will tell you to get help for a drinking or drugging problem, to stop the extramarital affair, and to be a good and decent person.

 

8. Someone who tells you to knock back, smell the roses, and enjoy life part of the time.

If you are a person who is a real performer and doer, there are likely to be people around you who enjoy the fruits of your labor and want you to do even more. Sometimes you may even see yourself as only valuable when you are giving, doing, and performing. Listen to the person who tells you that life is short and you need breaks and some R&R. That is the person who is looking out for you and your health.

 

9. The one who smiles at you and means it.

The person who loves you looks at you with eyes that smile and mean it. Too many people give you that slick smile, that quick pat on the back, and then forget that you even exist.

The eyes are the windows of our soul and you can read into a person’s smile if it is saying, ‘You are a fine person and I want to be with you as long as possible’. Don’t fall for any phony smile that attracts you off in another direction, only to leave you stranded and alone.

 

10. Someone who sees you as beautiful, inside and out.

You know you aren’t perfect. There are only too many examples of you looking around and thinking that you have flaws and aren’t like the people on television. The person who loves you sees you through eyes of acceptance with no conditions. As you gain a few pounds and your hair gets thin, the person who sees you as attractive, inviting, and appealing is the person who loves you all the way, no strings or demands.

 

Nowadays, it’s really important to know who loves you. Everything in our society is throw away, and many people have carried that over into the most important relationships in their lives. Think hard and look carefully. People who love you , like comfortable clothes, are easy on the heart, mind, and soul.

sharon schurman is a retired clinical counselor whose site gives information, tips, and suggestions on dealing with all types of depression.  Please go to http://www.depression-help-guide.com.

The myths and legends of fairies are as plenteous as the sands of the sea. The stories passed down from generation to generation speak of magical beings of untold power, mystery and beauty. Many wonder what the truth behind the tales are, but many more desire to know what fairies look like- what about them is so striking?

The Gift of Physical Beauty

Though there are many stories and artistic renderings of what fairies look like, there are few who know exactly what to believe. Do fairies have deep black eyes, pointed claw-like fingers and fangs? Or are fairies creatures of ethereal beauty and grace?

More are likely to believe that the fairies of the stories they have read as a child are truly glorious beings. Whereas some fairies such as Tinkerbell can be diminutive in stature, there are others that are six feet tall. They have long flowing hair that glimmers in the moonlight, their ears are perfectly pointed at the tips and their eye are slanted, almost almond shaped. The fairies of little girl’s dreams have pale skin that glitters as if kissed by a pearl, and their wings are diamond encrusted capes upon their backs. Every child dreams of fairies as being more beautiful than any mere human, and they can continue to dream of such things. Fairies are as beautiful as you want them to be.

Adornments and Apparel

Fairies are not just beautiful in physical appearance; they also wear the most delectable things. The fairy women gown themselves in diaphanous fabrics that shimmer in the light and hide little from the sight. The men of the fairy court are garbed in tunics of rich silk and velvet that cause even the stoutest hearted of human women to gasp in utter awe.

The clothes of the fairies are inconsequential next to the fine jewels and gems they wear. The fairy jewel crafters are known to be the craftsmen to the gods. Nothing that the humans of this world can produce will ever compare to the magical craftsmanship of the fairies. On the head of each fairy is a tiny crown of the purest gold. Upon each fairy hand is a ring, each detailed planned out to the merest nth degree. The neck of each fairy is adorned with a necklace so fine that the moon itself would fall from the sky just to marvel at its shine. No human on earth could ever imagine the true beauty of the fairy wardrobe.

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It’s estimated that about half of us have already cheated or will cheat on our partner. In fact, around 60% of men and 40% of women will have an affair.

Now, we’re not suggesting that all men are up to no good. Lots of us have ups and downs in our relationships and our interests in each other come and go, depending on how secure you feel as a couple.

But if you do suspect that your partner could be having an affair, how can you tell? What are the signs he’s cheating?

We’ve come up with a list of the most common signs and explained what the innocent explanation could be and the reasons why it could be a sign of cheating.

Have a look, think about your own relationship and then make your own mind up…

1. Your intuition
His behaviour: Suspecting that something’s up is often the first sign for many women. Admittedly intuition isn’t anything that your fella is actually doing, but you know that something doesn’t feel quite right - often you’ve spotted some of the other signs sub-consciously.

The innocent explanation: Quite simply, your intuition could be wrong. Do you talk to each other enough? Perhaps he’s going through a stressful time.

The guilty reason: Hunches have been proved to be correct more often than not. If instinct is telling you that he could be playing away, then keep your eyes and ears open for some of the other signs.

2. He’s over-attentive
His behaviour: He spends more time being interested in you than normal. Perhaps, he buys you gifts unexpectedly or starts helping look after the children more than normal. He may even start doing more around the house, ironing, washing, or those niggly DIY jobs that have been left unfinished for months.

The innocent explanation: Have you been going through a bad patch recently? Your fella could have decided to make more of an effort in order to get things back on track - positive thinking is important in relationships.

The guilty reason: He’s feeling guilty and wants to make up for the fact that he’s having an affair. This sort of thing often happens in the early stages of an affair.

3. Technology changes
His behaviour: Now that technology makes it easier to contact people, this not only means that it’s easier to have an affair, but there are also more places to be caught out. You may discover that your man has an email account you never knew about, or perhaps he has two phones and you only know one number.

Another common sign is when he starts taking calls and walking out of the room, often telling you it’s work, and gets defensive when you get near his phone.

The innocent explanation: His boss has asked him to be on call when he’s at home, given him a work phone and your partner doesn’t want to interrupt whatever you’re doing.

The guilty reason: His mistress is sending him naughty texts or emails while you’re at home and he’s trying to cover them up. We’re not suggesting you actually snoop because if there is nothing going on then it could you look bad and in the wrong - just be aware.

4. You don’t talk any more
His behaviour: This is almost the opposite of him being over-interested in you. Maybe he’s stopped being interested in what you got up to during the day, or he no longer says ‘I love you’ or doesn’t even want to kiss or hug you any more.

The innocent explanation: Could he be stressed or maybe even suffering from depression? This can often explain mood swings or disinterest and possibly he won’t realise he’s suffering.

The guilty reason: If he starts becoming less interested in finding out what you’ve done during the day and how you’re feeling, then it’s often an indication that he’s getting his emotional fix elsewhere. When kissing stops in a relationship, it’s often seen as a big warning sign.

5. He’s hotter than ever in bed
His behaviour: Your husband suddenly starts doing something new and amazing when you’re in the throes of passion. It could be a new foreplay technique, or maybe even a new sex position you’ve never even heard of before.

The innocent explanation: He could well be looking at websites like goodtoknow and discovered some new sex tips and thought he’d give them a go. Don’t knock the guy for trying!

The guilty reason: If it happens more than once, then it could be because someone is teaching him something new in another bed!

6. He gets irritated quickly
His behaviour: When you ask him questions about what he’s been up to, he starts to act all defensive and jumpy.

The innocent explanation: He could be planning a surprise holiday or romantic break and doesn’t want you to ruin the surprise.

The guilty reason: He’s worried that you’re checking up on him and will discover his cheating ways.

7. Your friends notice something’s up
His behaviour: This isn’t anything he’s done, but often friends and family will notice that things aren’t quite right between the two of you and start asking questions.

The innocent explanation: You’re going through a tough time or you just tend to be a little more on edge when you’re in other people’s company.

The guilty reason: If more than one best mate starts asking if everything’s all right between you, maybe it’s time to stop and think - especially if you hadn’t noticed anything was wrong!

8. He’s a changed man
His behaviour: Has your partner started wanting to watch new TV programmes, listen to new music or even bought new clothes or a new aftershave?

The innocent explanation: He could be having a mid-life crisis and feel that he needs to be ‘young and hip’ again, or maybe he’s discovered a new website or magazine that’s giving him new recommendations.

The guilty reason: A new woman often means he experiences new things (other than sex) that you have no hand in.

9. He accuses you of cheating
His behaviour: This will probably come as a bit of a shock, but he’ll possibly ask outright if you’ve been seeing someone else. Men tend to be more direct than women.

The innocent explanation: Although statistics show that men cheat more than women, that doesn’t mean he won’t have his own suspicions. If your relationship is going through a rough patch, it’s not an unreasonable explanation - especially if you’ve stopped talking as much.

The guilty reason: It’s common for cheaters to suspect their partners of cheating simply because they believe that if they’re getting away with it, you can too. This is also how many people who cheat deal with their guilt - they try to make themselves feel better by turning the tables. Once you’ve got over your initial shock at being accused, it might be worth looking a little closely at what he’s up to!

10. Things don’t add up
His behaviour: Has he started changing his daily routine for seemingly no reason? Maybe his actual job hasn’t changed, but he starts leaving earlier in the morning and getting back later. Or perhaps he told you he was out with Steve last week, but you later discover that Steve was away at a conference.

The innocent explanation: Work could be getting more stressful - perhaps someone has left, leaving him with more work than normal. Alternatively, he could be arranging some sort of surprise party and he doesn’t want you to know what he’s up to.

The guilty reason: Once someone starts lying, it becomes more and more difficult to keep up the act, so when small unexplained things start happening or you notice inconsistent things, there could be something not-so-innocent as an explanation.

11. You’re not invited to work dos any more
His behaviour: Remember the days when you always used to go to his Christmas parties or summer balls? He always asked you to come for a drink with his work colleagues if you were free, but all of a sudden there’s been a ‘change of policy’, or maybe he just doesn’t even suggest it any more.

The innocent explanation: Well, the credit crunch is more than just a buzzword. Companies really are cutting back on non-essential things and if that means not inviting partners to anything any more, that’s what they’ll do.

The guilty reason: If the work invites start drying up, it could well be because he’s seeing someone at work and doesn’t want you to meet them and create an awkward situation… for him, obviously.

12. He starts taking showers
His behaviour: We hope that your man’s personal hygiene is up to scratch, but he may be diving into the shower the minute he comes home.

The innocent explanation: If he comes home drunk a lot, he could well be covering up drunken injuries or something similar.

The guilty reason: He wants to get rid of the smell of another woman’s perfume or sex.

And finally… remember!
None of these signs is proof enough on its own that your man might be cheating on you, but together they’re often a pretty good indicator.

What you do next is up to you, but at least you can talk to him knowing that you’ve weighed up the signs and options.

Kate Corr
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